Let’s get real. Women empowerment is not about bashing men. It’s not about hashtags, slogans, or posting quotes about strength while secretly tolerating bad choices. Empowerment is about owning your decisions—and too many women are misusing the word.
Here’s the truth no one wants to hear: a lot of women play the victim card when things don’t go their way. That’s not empowerment—that’s avoidance.
Before you cry victim, ask yourself:
- Did I have a choice?
- Could I have said no?
- What really happened?
Let’s talk infidelity. If you willingly stepped outside your marriage or relationship and got burned, don’t play victim. You had a marriage. You had choices. You knew the risks. Don’t suddenly act blindsided because someone didn’t keep promises. Everyone makes promises they can’t keep—spouses, lovers, friends, bosses. How long are you going to keep swallowing lies before you finally admit the truth?
And here’s another harsh truth: tolerating abuse in an affair is not the same as being trapped in a marriage. In marriages, yes—kids, money, culture, fear—there are complicated reasons women stay. But in infidelity? You had a door wide open. You walked into it, and you could’ve walked right back out. Don’t dress that up as victimhood.
Playing victim is the most unempowering role you can choose. It strips you of accountability and leaves you weaker than before. If you want to be empowered, start making the right choices from the beginning. Stop romanticizing bad decisions, stop clinging to excuses, and stop labeling yourself as powerless.
Empowerment isn’t given. It’s claimed. And you can’t claim it while hiding behind the victim card.
“Stop calling it empowerment if you’re still choosing to be the victim—power isn’t played, it’s owned.” Rennu Dhillon
