How many times have you felt like people walk all over your thoughts, needs, and emotions? How often have you been told to “speak softer” or “be more ladylike”? I’ve heard it far too many times myself:
“Rennu, you need to be a soft-spoken woman. That’s what’s ladylike.”
No, thank you!
If I have something to say, I intend to say it. Asking women to always be polite, agreeable, and accommodating is just another way of saying, “Be my doormat.” And that’s not empowerment.
In many cultures, women are conditioned to compromise for the sake of their spouses or families — sometimes to the point of completely losing their own identities. Sure, compromise has its place in relationships, but not at the cost of your self-worth or sanity. Over time, silence and suppression build up into resentment, and one day, that internal volcano erupts — emotionally, mentally, or even physically.
Let’s be clear: finding your voice is not about being rude or confrontational. It’s about respectfully expressing your truth. And yes, unfortunately, outspoken women often get labeled as “difficult” or “bitches.” But would you rather be labeled or live your life pleasing everyone else but yourself?
Once you find and embrace your voice, the pent-up frustration starts to dissolve. You gain clarity. You build self-respect. And most importantly, you take your power back.
This goal connects directly to Goal 1 – Learning to Say No, and Goal 2 – Surrounding Yourself with Positive Energy. Your voice is your compass. Use it to set boundaries, protect your peace, and honor who you are becoming.
As Madonna famously said:
“I’m tough, I’m ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay.”
Let them call you what they want. Just don’t let them walk all over you again.
